How You Connect and Perceive Is Uniquely Yours

Here’s the truth… your connection to spirit, intuition, and energy is yours. No one else’s. And anyone telling you that there’s only one way to receive, interpret, or experience a message from the universal planes? They’re missing the point entirely.

I watched a spiritual debate unfold online not long ago. Two people—both clearly connected in their own ways—argued over what an ancestral visit “should” look like. One described it like a person walking into your living room, sitting down, and having a chat. The other painted this gorgeous, starry, dreamlike scene filled with light and floating presence.

Both of them insisted they were right. Both insisted the other was wrong.

And the reality? They were both right.

The only thing they were wrong about was thinking their experience was universal.

You Determine the Interface

Connecting with your intuition or the spirit world isn’t like tuning into a specific radio station that plays one song for everyone. It’s more like setting your own frequency and having a deeply personal playlist broadcasted through your own soul’s speakers.

Some people see visions like movies. Some feel energy like a punch to the gut. Others hear music, voices, static—or silence. And many… don’t “see” or “hear” anything at all.

They know.

That knowing is just as valid.

I Started With a Wild Imagination

Back in 1979 (yep, I’ve been doing this a while), when I started reading, no one told me how I was “supposed” to see or receive. I just did. I thought it was imagination. I’d visualize entire scenes like something out of a fantasy epic. We’re talking mystical lands, glowing spirits, floating altars—Hollywood would’ve paid good money for what was going on in my head.

I thought I was faking it. That it was too dramatic to be real.

Then my Aunt Kay (MY first real Oracle and mentor) asked me something that changed everything, “Are you intending your visions to be big and grand?”

I realized in that moment that I was “setting the scene.” Not faking it, I was framing it based on what felt powerful and aligned to me.

My guides and messages were coming through clearly, it just happened to look like a metaphysical blockbuster.

With Aunt Kay’s guidance, I learned that I could let the visions come in however they needed to. I didn’t have to dress them up. I also didn’t have to apologize if they did come through big, bold, and cinematic.

Because that’s who I am.

And your perception will match who you are.

Perception Isn’t One Size Fits All

Some of you don’t “see” anything. That’s fine.

You may:

• Feel emotions that aren’t yours

• Get gut hits you can’t explain

• Smell something that triggers a message

• Feel the temperature shift when spirit walks in

• Use tools like tarot, runes, pendulums, or scrying to translate energy

Some people hear music. Some people feel pressure in their bodies. Some people just get “drops” of knowledge like a file downloaded from the ether.

If you’re looking around trying to figure out why your experience doesn’t match someone else’s, stop.

That’s like asking why your fingerprints don’t match theirs. Because they’re not supposed to.

The Danger of “This Is the Way” Thinking

Let’s be blunt… spiritual gatekeeping sucks.

There’s nothing worse than finding the courage to explore your intuition, only to be told that if you’re not seeing angels with wings or hearing a certain tone of voice, “you’re not doing it right.”

Newsflash… The Divine isn’t a bureaucrat.

Your soul doesn’t need to submit to someone else’s rubric.

What matters is that you connect. Not how.

Trust What Comes Through for You

If what you see, feel, hear, or just know resonates, supports, and uplifts, that’s the connection. If it helps you help others, ground your decisions, feel supported, and access peace… that’s your intuitive channel.

Let it be what it is.

Let it change.

Let it evolve.

If you start off needing tools and then begin receiving messages without them, great. If you never hear a voice, however, always feel pressure in your chest before someone calls you, that’s awesome.

There is no gold medal for performing intuition “correctly.” There’s only your experience and whether it’s real for you.

My Final Thoughts… Your Intuition, Your Interface

If you get nothing else from this post, get this…You don’t need to experience intuition the way someone else does.

You don’t have to “see spirits” to be psychic. You don’t have to use cards to be valid. You don’t have to have dramatic dreams, glowing orbs, or feel goosebumps on cue.

You just have to pay attention to how you receive.

Your spirit knows the way. Your system is already online. Your only job?

Stop comparing. Start listening.

How you connect is how you connect. That’s not the problem. That’s the gift.